At my last Biodynamic CranioSacral therapy module, we worked with the process of Ignition.

There are three Ignition processes that take place for the newborn as we enter the world.

Conception (Ignition) is about Coming into Being; the Ground of Being-feeling received.

To be. Heart Ignition is about the Embodiment of Being-there is a direct relationship to Mom in the womb, the womb is our world. This about being received in my Being by the other.

Finally Birth Ignition is about our orientation to the outer world, ignition of our Life Force as a separate physiological being. The empowerment of being.

How can we be ourselves and not take things so personally? If we have boundary problems, have a sense of being invaded by our partner, it is because as a little one, we needed to be held. There was as Winnicott states: a good enough holding environment. We needed to feel and sense that someone was present. Not too distant. Not too far. This is very early stuff. If Mom was unable to "hold" the infant in the womb, we might as a survival mechanism become the "good" child, helping Mom. We become the caregiver of Mom. In the process, we become someone who can't take care of ourselves, protect ourselves later on. We need to re-own our own goodness and strength without feeling guilty.

The goal of therapy is to recreate a holding environment that's more trustworthy. That is safe. Allowing us to feel seen and received. Allowing us to heal the terror of the feeling "I don't exist." During the the processes of ignition, the re-creation of these incompleted processes allow healing to take place.